Yesterday’s post about Everyday Choices got me thinking about how what we chose to think and to feel falls into place.
On the one hand I wanted to include what we chose to think and what we chose to feel along with the what we choose to do, where we chose to be, and whom we choose to be with.
But something held me back.
It’s not that I don’t believe we can choose to think and feel.
But I struggled with a few thoughts that I wish I didn’t have.
Though, as soon as I thought them, I was able to let go.
Before a few months ago, thoughts like these were a lot harder for me to let go.
The idea that I could let them just come and go, flow in and out of my brain as though they were just a visitor was a metaphor I’m not sure I could have come up with before.
I found quite a bit of comfort in this moment.
And it got me thinking.
What if we respected our negative thoughts, just as we would a person we don’t like.
I used to feel embarrassed to think there was a person on this planet I didn’t like. A guy who loves people almost more than himself to not like someone else?
It felt a little shameful.
The thing is, none of us are perfect, and we’re all not perfect matches for each other no matter what the level of our relationship with others.
Not liking someone doesn’t mean you should not care, ignore, disrespect, or even not talk to that person either. It’s from people who we don’t get along with that we sometimes may have something extra important to learn.
Why can’t we have the same type of relationship with thoughts we might not like?
To let them come in and out of our minds as if they were a person we didn’t get on with coming in and out of a room?
What if we accepted and respected them for what they are or represent?
What happens if you’re open and honest about these feelings with yourself?
What if you don’t let the feeling add stress, but instead let yourself make peace?
Is there something more to see? Is there something to learn here?