When are we going to realize that silver bullets just don’t exist?
A day or so ago I was swapping notes with a friend. She recently read a book that seemed to answer most of her biggest questions about life.
What pushes us to think that one book, one incident, one accident, one job, one thing, one person… is the thing that makes and/or breaks us?
Or that will get us over the hump, put us on the road to things getting better, solidify our relationship, etc.?
What is a life lived based on exceptions?
As long as X doesn’t happen, Y isn’t around, or Z isn’t involved, everything will be just fine.
But did we forget that everything is a process? That life is a journey? That it doesn’t get better – or worse – in an instant? Or because of one thing or another?
Sure, there are exceptions. Traumatic and excruciatingly challenging exceptions and that’s not what we’re talking about right now because those aren’t the general rule.
I come back to this book and these answers.
It’s great that the book has seemingly answered all of my friend’s most important questions.
But, from what it sounded like to me, she was looking for very specific answers to questions that this author just happened to articulate in a particular profound way or at a particularly profound time.
My question to her – had she “found the answer(s)” to life’s biggest questions or had she just confirmed the answers she was looking for to these complex questions, now nicely articulated back to her by someone else?
Am I being judgmental in not the most useful of ways?
Maybe we all are subconsciously are searching for someone to tell us answers to our biggest quandaries?
Or perhaps my current thinking suggests I’m no longer as interested in waiting for the message or looking for confirmation / validation in the exceptional external sources… as I am in writing my own script?