Have you considered the relationship between procrastination and fear lately?
These days, I’ve been giving “fear” a fair amount of thought. This post is the first that comes to mind from some of my recent writings.
The title of this post comes directly from his post, Fear is the Root of Your Problems because I’m not sure it can be said any better.
I linked to Leo based on a conversation that started with the relationship between fear and procrastination. Though this is a connection I’ve made before.
The connection I hadn’t made before, and my larger takeaway from Leo’s post, is that fear isn’t something to be conquered, but to realize that it’s something within us.
In other words, it’s something for us to recognize, understand, and accept about ourselves.
The next time fear arises inside of you, what will you feel, think, do?
Instead of the need to go battle against your fear, what if you joined forces with your “enemy”?
Or what if you let your fear fuel you?
Instead of a need to conquer, how about you chose to coexist, even allow the fear to fuel you?
Where might this take you? Your work? Your relationships with others? And your relationship with yourself?
Leo’s got some terrific suggestions in his post that are worth a gander.
This evening at dinner I was chatting with a friend about her friend who is going through a challenging time. Family member with cancer. Job down the tubes. No relationship in sight.
All complaining, all the time. No sunshine in sight. And my friend wasn’t exactly sure what she could do for her.
I wondered was causing her to feel and act this way? What was this friend of my friend most fearful of?
I shared with my friend my new learning about fear and my intention to write about it tonight.
She immediately mentioned the way Elizabeth Gilbert talks about fear as something you invite to come along on your journey, but don’t give voting rights to for any decision.
What a beautiful thought. Do you need to read that again?
My friend described her personal fears as this wounded part that needed extra care and attention.
I thought back to this friend of my friend who seems to be having a rough go at it.
It seemed like she was trying to convince my friend – and likely others – that she wasn’t going to make it.
Why does she prefer the status quo when the power is within her to change?
And if she’s having trouble, help is at her side. What keeps holding her back from moving beyond the pain and the fear?
No matter who we are or however well-adapted or well-equipped to deal with any and everything life throws at us, it seems to me that fear will never really leave us and will always be a part of us.
It’s like a person – one who is a mainstay in our lives. They may come and go, but they are always there. Maybe we like to interact with them, maybe not. But either way, we must. They are a part of our lives.
But how would you choose to interact with them?
And how do you choose to interact with your fear?
Do you try to conquer?
Do you just take away its voting rights?
Or maybe there’s another way?
What role does fear play in the story of your life?
Why choose fear when you can choose love?
No matter where you are or with whom you’re with.
How might a different way of interacting with fear influence your work? Your relationships with others? And your relationship with yourself?